When you were a little girl, what did you want to be when you grew up?
Personally, I wanted to be a mom, not a princess or a vet or a nurse, I wanted to be a mommy! Now that I am a mom, when moments get crazy and loud, and I wonder to myself “how did I get here?!” I remind myself that this is what I always wanted to be, and this is just a moment in time that won’t affect my entire life-unless I choose to dwell in the chaos and allow it to take me over. This is what I was created to do. But there’s more to me than “mommy”!
Can moms be dreamers? Absolutely!! With every fibre of my being, I love being a mom! Sure, life gets hectic! Messes are made, toddlers pee and poop on my floors, they run and scream…but outside of being a mom, I have hopes and dreams! I have things that drive me to be more passionate about life! My main focus in life is my kids, raising them to be great, raising them to be world changers-but I was a woman long before I was a mom. I love to help people-put me in a room with other moms & women, or people with disabilities (not that the two are the same! :)) and I am in my element! I am wired for relationship-to build, connect, embrace, encourage…I absolutely thrive in an element of support! As we grow up, we determine what sorts of things fire our passions in life-but I feel like a lot of women, as they get married and have kids, lose a sense of who they are. That is what I want to talk about here.
As women, we wear many different hats, and we wear them well! We wear those hats even when we don’t want to! We are very good at pushing through things even when it tears us up on the inside. I want to talk about how to push through those things and NOT lose a sense of yourself. You are enough as a mom. You are enough as a wife. You are absolutely enough for everyone else around you, but are you enough for yourself? Do you look at yourself in the mirror and know deep within yourself that you are the very best version of yourself? Do you see yourself as beautiful? Do you see yourself confidently, knowing you are capable of anything you put your mind to? I’m sitting here typing this right now to tell you that you are!
I want to challenge you to take some time to yourself, with a notebook, and write down all the things that you’re passionate about. Write down all the goals you would like to achieve-almost like a “bucket list”. Write down what you believe about yourself, and then ask God what He thinks of those things, what He thinks of you! If you don’t believe God will speak to you, then ask your spouse, or your very close friend. You need to change your mindset about yourself if you want to chase your dreams. If somewhere along the line, you started to doubt yourself and your ability to be amazing, you need to stop in your tracks and change it. I don’t even know all of you and I believe you’re amazing!
If we want to raise world changers, we need to believe we are changing the world. As a mom, we want the absolute best for our kids, but how can you believe for the best in them when you can’t see the best in yourself. Journalling is a great way to keep your mind and your heart in check. If you get a sense about something, write it down. If you are feeling something but you want to change it, write it down! If you make this part of your routine, your lifestyle, you can look back on your journals months or years down the road and see how much you’ve changed. Be real with yourself. Be honest with yourself-your journalling isn’t something you need to “pretend” with, or hide. Be gentle, allow yourself to be vulnerable and reach down deep, dig up the dirt and change your mind about yourself. I don’t know if this is something that you’re going through, even just a little bit-but if it is, I believe that if you begin to walk this out one step at a time, before you know it, you will begin to see yourself differently, and it will change the way you react to life, your kids, your spouse, the way you walk out day to day situations, conversations, and parenting. You will be able to choose to go through life as a dreamer-maybe you always wanted to take up hiking, or crafting, or just changing your priorities and taking more time for yourself-that’s great! If you can allow yourself the confidence and the time to heal and to dream, you can do anything! You can be a dreaming mama! You are enough!
I pray for wisdom and peace for you as you’re reading this, and as you go through your week! I hope you can take something away from this post that will help. Your heart is worth it, and you are worth it!