In all things, give thanks.
(1 Thess 5:18)
So I’ve been thinking about all the things I’m thankful for-after a long week with the kids, full of struggles, tears & frustration (on their part and mine as well!) I thought to myself, “what kind of mom can dwell on all the hard stuff when I know that I am so blessed and the momentary ‘life stuff’ comes and goes so fast, it’s not worth getting worked up about it!”
“There’s always something to be thankful for” keeps coming up in my heart. We’ve had an exceptionally hard year as a family. My kids are unaware, but my husband and I have had to push through to get through! Just like all other circumstances we’ve endured, we were a team through it. Lots of tears, conversations, strategizing…you know that feeling when you get through something and turn around and there’s something else there staring you in the face? Yep. That’s been our year. But in all of it, we have kept our faith, held on tight-to Jesus and to each other-and pressed through.
But aside from all the hard stuff, we’ve had a lot of joy! In the hard times our kids have kept us going-to keep their lives as normal as possible in our struggles. We’ve added a whole new human to our family this year, we took on homeschooling, new jobs, one less bike with training wheels, potty training success, weight loss (yes this is something to be thankful for!) and above all, we’ve had each other! There is SO MUCH to be thankful for!
How do you cope with life when the hard stuff is staring you down? How do you keep your head up and maintain a good attitude when all you want to do is have a pity party, curl up in a corner and cry?! Staying focussed on the great stuff is a good way to keep your perspective! Take the time to put your phone down, and just sit in the middle of your life. Have a conversation with your husband about his day and not discuss your kids or life stuff and just connect! Sit with your kids and just listen to what they have to say-we may be raising them to be prepared for life, but at the same time, they are teaching us what life is all about! I know that I have had quite a few moments recently where I’ve sat with my kids and had amazing conversations and I walk away feeling like I’m doing my job-like they are listening to what I have to say and they are so grown up…it feels like I just blinked and suddenly I have these amazing kids with their own little voices-and they love to share their thoughts with me! Another good way to keep perspective is to do a gratitude list-journal or share on social media something you’re thankful for each day. We need to remember that when life is easy we are quick to say thank you and keep going but when life is hard we need to still say thank you and grow from it.
Things aren’t always going to be easy, but there is always going to be something to be thankful for! We can’t grow when we’re stuck in a rut, and we can’t pour out into others when we are on empty-our marriage and our relationships suffer for it. We are strong, and we are always learning…remember that you are doing the best you can, be gentle with yourself! You are enough!